Trust In A Relationship- Getting Your Ex Back After An Affair

Trust in a relationship after an affair can at times be hard to come by. Most people believe that after an affair the relationship should always come to an end, I for one totally disagree. If both parties involved believe that the relationship is worth saving, then that is the first step to getting your ex back after an affair. I Believe that most all relationships are savable if both parties are willing to work for it.

To gain trust in a relationship back after an affair will take some work at attitudes and actions. You must start by learning to trust in your ex again. There is something wrong at the core of the relationship to have caused the attitude of the person to resort to cheating. This problem must be found and fixed before you can continue to heal the relationship.

What caused the person to stray. Were they looking for sex? Was the other partner to busy for them? Was the other partner not keeping themselves groomed enough? Whatever the reason in order to gain trust in a relationship after an affair this issue must be dealt with.

You need to start looking at your self first to see if the problem lies within you, then you can move on to your partner to see if the problem is with them. Sometimes this means that couples counseling is the best method at this stage. You must fix the underlying problem in order to gain trust in a relationship.

To begin gaining trust start small. Make small promises and stick with them, then gradually move on to bigger things. You must be patient if you are the one looking to gain trust, especially if the trust was broken by having an affair. It's not an easy thing to forgive so be patient.

Treat the incident as a positive thing for allowing you both to grow in the relationship and not as a guilt trip to be used on each other. Both parties must change there attitudes and actions in order to have trust in a relationship after an affair.